Emotionally Healthy Spirituality
Is it possible to be a spiritually healthy Christian while being emotionally unhealthy? This is a question that most of us have not taken much time to think about. Rarely do we discuss emotional health in church settings, and yet our emotions are part of being fully human. Peter Scazerro, author of Emotionally Healthy Church, says the answer to the above question is, “No.” To ignore our emotions as if they are not as important as our relationship with God is, in a sense, inhumane.
“Ignoring our emotions is turning our back on reality; listening to our emotions ushers us into reality. And reality is where we meet God…. Emotions are the language of the soul.”
–Dan Allender and Tremper Longman in The Cry of the Soul.
If emotions are the language of the soul, then this means the way we display our emotions gives people insight into just how spiritually mature or immature we really are. Understanding our emotions can go a long way in helping us be better small group leaders too. Think about some normal situations that come up in a small group setting. How do you tend to react? How do your reactions to these situations show your spiritual maturity?
- Someone controls the dialogue by talking too much.
- Two people argue (politely or not-so-politely) over a teaching.
- People from different backgrounds respond differently to a teaching.
- Dead silence.
- Someone opens up for the first time and is met with blank stares.
The Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Assessment Tool was designed to help you discover your spiritual and emotional maturity. Fill it out and then reflect on your results either by journaling about them or taking some time to pray about them.